quizzer
04-27 06:01 PM
Are they going to discuss all the bills in last week of May or just the Hagel Bill.
I know CIR as such is going to be discussed in the senate in last 2 weeks of May.
What about CIR in house? Will it follow after senate?
I know CIR as such is going to be discussed in the senate in last 2 weeks of May.
What about CIR in house? Will it follow after senate?
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insbaby
01-12 12:32 PM
All,
Background:
I am hoping you can help me with my situation here. I had an appointment on Dec 19th 2008 at New Delhi consulate for extension of my H1B. Since I had a DUI in 2006, they told me to sumit medical report. When I submitted medican report on Dec 22, 2008 they told me they would review my report and tell me to deposit my passport if everything is fine (for visa stamping). They also told me that I don't need to come myself to deposit the passport. Since I had to get back to office, I left India and used AP to enter US.
I just received an email from consulate that I should submit passport at the ND consulate. I was thinking of sending it to my home in Delhi via courier so that my brother can submit it to consulate. Once consulate sends passport to my address in New Delhi, my family would courier it back to me. I wanted to check with folks here if that is fine.
Thanks
From Indian Embassy, Washington DC.
Guidelines for Indian Passport Holders
(i) Your passport is a valuable document. It should always be retained either in your private custody or in the custody of a person duly authorized by you. Passport should not be sent out of the country of residence by post. If the passport is lost or destroyed, the fact and circumstances should be immediately reported to the nearest Indian Mission and the local police. PLEASE KEEP A PHOTOCOPY OF YOUR PASSPORT IN A SAFE PLACE. WITHOUT DETAILS OF THE LOST/DAMAGED PASSPORT, THE ISSUE OF A DUPLICATE PASSPORT MAY BE DELAYED.
There are few potential issues you could face:
1. Passport lost in mail (Will happen 90% of the time when you ship your passport overseas, believe me.). You may think FedEx is the best courier. They will pay $100 for the lost passport, if you have insured, then it may be $300.
2. If the receiver of your lost passport is an unautherized person, then your trouble is multiplied by 100.
3. Your package WILL BE OPENED by mumbai customs officers. When they see your passport, the receiver of your package must answer questions continously for few months.
4. Now you are in a foreign country without your passport. When you file for a new passport, you have to submit a police report and you can not lie. You have to tell them that you missed while sending overseas. Indian embassy lists clearly that you should not do.
It would be better stay on your AP, or spend another $1500, and take 1 week off from work, go there get it stamped.
The message sounds very rude, but I have seen the experience of missing passport in a foreign country.
Background:
I am hoping you can help me with my situation here. I had an appointment on Dec 19th 2008 at New Delhi consulate for extension of my H1B. Since I had a DUI in 2006, they told me to sumit medical report. When I submitted medican report on Dec 22, 2008 they told me they would review my report and tell me to deposit my passport if everything is fine (for visa stamping). They also told me that I don't need to come myself to deposit the passport. Since I had to get back to office, I left India and used AP to enter US.
I just received an email from consulate that I should submit passport at the ND consulate. I was thinking of sending it to my home in Delhi via courier so that my brother can submit it to consulate. Once consulate sends passport to my address in New Delhi, my family would courier it back to me. I wanted to check with folks here if that is fine.
Thanks
From Indian Embassy, Washington DC.
Guidelines for Indian Passport Holders
(i) Your passport is a valuable document. It should always be retained either in your private custody or in the custody of a person duly authorized by you. Passport should not be sent out of the country of residence by post. If the passport is lost or destroyed, the fact and circumstances should be immediately reported to the nearest Indian Mission and the local police. PLEASE KEEP A PHOTOCOPY OF YOUR PASSPORT IN A SAFE PLACE. WITHOUT DETAILS OF THE LOST/DAMAGED PASSPORT, THE ISSUE OF A DUPLICATE PASSPORT MAY BE DELAYED.
There are few potential issues you could face:
1. Passport lost in mail (Will happen 90% of the time when you ship your passport overseas, believe me.). You may think FedEx is the best courier. They will pay $100 for the lost passport, if you have insured, then it may be $300.
2. If the receiver of your lost passport is an unautherized person, then your trouble is multiplied by 100.
3. Your package WILL BE OPENED by mumbai customs officers. When they see your passport, the receiver of your package must answer questions continously for few months.
4. Now you are in a foreign country without your passport. When you file for a new passport, you have to submit a police report and you can not lie. You have to tell them that you missed while sending overseas. Indian embassy lists clearly that you should not do.
It would be better stay on your AP, or spend another $1500, and take 1 week off from work, go there get it stamped.
The message sounds very rude, but I have seen the experience of missing passport in a foreign country.
rockstart
06-16 12:46 PM
I dont think USCIS will again match your education with labor now at 485 stage in normal circumstances unless there is some fraud. 485 is more about your name check and fingerprint check along with if you were ever out of status. The only thing they can ask again is a new employment offer letter.
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krish2005
11-09 08:47 PM
I am opposing STEM cell bill then, I dont want to see Kaurava's running around...::-)
:D
"Science is a double edged". I would support stem cell research if there are ways control it and not to jeopardize nature's protocols.
lol. I could imagine the comical kaurava clowns running around when you put that post. :D:D:D
:D
"Science is a double edged". I would support stem cell research if there are ways control it and not to jeopardize nature's protocols.
lol. I could imagine the comical kaurava clowns running around when you put that post. :D:D:D
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NikNikon
May 23rd, 2005, 08:43 PM
Gary, I'm just thinking of mine which is a circular polarizer. You rotate the polarizer to achieve the desired amount of polarization. So I can rotate it one way and either darken or lighten the sky. All but your last pic looked as if it was darker on the right side which lead me to the assumption it was a circular type. There's a linear type too which I have never used so I'm not sure how it works, but I imagine it doesn't rotate (anyone?).
bmoni
12-26 09:51 AM
I will be calling in.
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logiclife
02-16 01:02 PM
There is a 7% limit per country. This 7% is applicable when all countries have large number of applicants. I case of several countries not filling their own 7% limit, those numbers have gone to India and China whose demand far outstrips 7% of 140,000 EB visas.
In 2004 and 2005, India and China already got way more than 7% since there wasnt much demand from other countries.
I think India got 42,000 EB visas out of 140,000, the visas that overflowed from those countries whose demand was negligible. Do you want this to be in IV goals still and draw attention to yourself especially since India got almost 30% of EB visas? Coz if you do so, someone will say : What are you talking about...what 7%? Indian employees consumed 30% of EB visa numbers in previous years.
Per country quota limit, if eliminated will not have any benefit but will draw attention to India and China already claiming way more than 7% of 140,000 visas. Its a counterproductive strategy.
The quota itself is a problem. The per country limit within the quota is NOT a problem.
--logiclife.
In 2004 and 2005, India and China already got way more than 7% since there wasnt much demand from other countries.
I think India got 42,000 EB visas out of 140,000, the visas that overflowed from those countries whose demand was negligible. Do you want this to be in IV goals still and draw attention to yourself especially since India got almost 30% of EB visas? Coz if you do so, someone will say : What are you talking about...what 7%? Indian employees consumed 30% of EB visa numbers in previous years.
Per country quota limit, if eliminated will not have any benefit but will draw attention to India and China already claiming way more than 7% of 140,000 visas. Its a counterproductive strategy.
The quota itself is a problem. The per country limit within the quota is NOT a problem.
--logiclife.
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larryking
10-22 05:50 PM
If I understand the visa bulletin right, EB#3 has 28.6% of the available visa numbers. If this is the case, is the 28.6% of the visas shared equally between the countries? And if they are shared equally between the countries, then do the applications get processed based on the priority date of the applicants for a given country?
I am just trying to understand the sequence of events here.
1. Divide total available visa numbers between EB1, EB2, EB3 etc resulting in 28% of visa numbers for EB3
2. Divide that 28% of numbers from step 1, equally between all the countries including India, China, Mexico and Other countries etc�all getting an equal �X� number of visas.
3. Once divided, start processing applications based on the priority date of the applicants for a given country. Which means, some countries may not be able to fulfill X number of visa numbers as they don�t have that many applicants Vs countries like India and China � their quota of X gets filled up in a hurry creating a back log?
If this sequence is not correct � how else can they end up with unused visa numbers?? What is the importance of priority date?
Thanks,
Larry King
I am just trying to understand the sequence of events here.
1. Divide total available visa numbers between EB1, EB2, EB3 etc resulting in 28% of visa numbers for EB3
2. Divide that 28% of numbers from step 1, equally between all the countries including India, China, Mexico and Other countries etc�all getting an equal �X� number of visas.
3. Once divided, start processing applications based on the priority date of the applicants for a given country. Which means, some countries may not be able to fulfill X number of visa numbers as they don�t have that many applicants Vs countries like India and China � their quota of X gets filled up in a hurry creating a back log?
If this sequence is not correct � how else can they end up with unused visa numbers?? What is the importance of priority date?
Thanks,
Larry King
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sameer2730
11-15 12:52 PM
You can travel back to USA from CANADA or MEXICO if you have a expired I-94 and a h1B which is valid while you are travelling (Its called Automatic Revalidation) if you are returning within 30 days and have not left the above mentioned countries during that period . I did it. Please do not give over your I-94 at the border or airport if asked. Let them you are returning in 30 days. However make sure you have copies of all your previous H1b and spouses H4b if any. My wife had converted from H4 to H1 3 years ago but has changed a job since. The customs officer at the border wanted to see her previous H1b.
Also you can take an appointment in BAHAMAS. I know a lot of people who got stamps from there. I think but am not sure , you do not need a visitor VISA to bahamas if you are a candian permanant resident.
About the Automatic Visa revalidation mentioned in the first paragragh its very clear and well known law. So 99.99% nothing will go wrong. Just try to travel by road (I have heard airport customs officers are not that familiar). Also travel along a busy border like Rainbow bridge . They know the law more in such places.
Also you can take an appointment in BAHAMAS. I know a lot of people who got stamps from there. I think but am not sure , you do not need a visitor VISA to bahamas if you are a candian permanant resident.
About the Automatic Visa revalidation mentioned in the first paragragh its very clear and well known law. So 99.99% nothing will go wrong. Just try to travel by road (I have heard airport customs officers are not that familiar). Also travel along a busy border like Rainbow bridge . They know the law more in such places.
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gk_2000
01-26 07:05 PM
US needs EB1 and Ph.Ds
Others not contribute as much
You are talking about needs? Then US needs all EB's over illegals by much, much more than US needs EB1 over EBn (n>1). So let's not talk of who contributes and who does not. It doesn't matter, all have same raw deal
Others not contribute as much
You are talking about needs? Then US needs all EB's over illegals by much, much more than US needs EB1 over EBn (n>1). So let's not talk of who contributes and who does not. It doesn't matter, all have same raw deal
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andhrawala
09-16 04:24 PM
Done
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CantLeaveAmerica
04-01 11:05 AM
Here is the answer! Your filing date was July2, 07. If you filed with NSC, in Feb they had moved their processing dates to July 18th. So your case was assigned to officer for review and he called for interview!.
Then he made a decision: Case approvable pending visa availability!
Hope that helps!
Yes, what Vinnysuru said makes sense completely and seems to be the apt explanation for your case. I have a question though if I may ask?
What did the Immigration officer ask you and what were your answers? Any input from you will be appreciated by all of us if someone here gets an interview call too :)
Then he made a decision: Case approvable pending visa availability!
Hope that helps!
Yes, what Vinnysuru said makes sense completely and seems to be the apt explanation for your case. I have a question though if I may ask?
What did the Immigration officer ask you and what were your answers? Any input from you will be appreciated by all of us if someone here gets an interview call too :)
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joydiptac
09-30 05:33 PM
AILA Leadership Has Just Posted the Following:
Dear Director Mayorkas:
Last week in a speech you ...
More... (http://ailaleadership.blogspot.com/2009/09/rfe-hell-and-increased-uscis-filing.html)
What is AILA complaining about?
The fee increase? really??:D
or Increased business that they are getting because of RFEs or that USCIS has become efficient and has pre-adjudicated most of the waiting applications by interviewing, RFEs and actual site visits.
Oops! Did I just say that. My bad! Sorry! I should probably have said "Naughty USCIS!!!" USCIS is closing files that AILA wants to remain open forevverr so that the juice keeps flowing.:D
AILA - consider rephrasing your statements these are too transparent. And ... Speak for yourself.
READ THIS:
We the immigrants (customers of USCIS) are perfectly fine with RFEs and interviews and site visits as long as it leads to PRE-ADJUDICATION and green card. Most of us don't even mind paying extra to end this wait. If AILA is really concerned about us please try to do something in that direction so that we can get relief by recapture or thru new legislation or admin fixes.
Dear Director Mayorkas:
Last week in a speech you ...
More... (http://ailaleadership.blogspot.com/2009/09/rfe-hell-and-increased-uscis-filing.html)
What is AILA complaining about?
The fee increase? really??:D
or Increased business that they are getting because of RFEs or that USCIS has become efficient and has pre-adjudicated most of the waiting applications by interviewing, RFEs and actual site visits.
Oops! Did I just say that. My bad! Sorry! I should probably have said "Naughty USCIS!!!" USCIS is closing files that AILA wants to remain open forevverr so that the juice keeps flowing.:D
AILA - consider rephrasing your statements these are too transparent. And ... Speak for yourself.
READ THIS:
We the immigrants (customers of USCIS) are perfectly fine with RFEs and interviews and site visits as long as it leads to PRE-ADJUDICATION and green card. Most of us don't even mind paying extra to end this wait. If AILA is really concerned about us please try to do something in that direction so that we can get relief by recapture or thru new legislation or admin fixes.
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rubinop
04-15 01:46 PM
You are not loosing anything. Continue on H-1B with current salary as long as it satisfies LCA made for H-1B petition.
You do not have to say anything to DOL. Your LC might be approved after the audit process. Then comes I-140, where the ability to pay comes into question. This could be difficult to get approved based on the situation you described.
If you have more time on H-1B, try to switch to different employer and restart the Greencard process.
Yes, if my LC will get approved in the iterim, I might be safe, but with no time left on the H1-B, and with the reduction of salary that will be applied very soon, I don''t think this is going to happen. Unless, as you said, I won't be lucky enough to get approved really soon.
You do not have to say anything to DOL. Your LC might be approved after the audit process. Then comes I-140, where the ability to pay comes into question. This could be difficult to get approved based on the situation you described.
If you have more time on H-1B, try to switch to different employer and restart the Greencard process.
Yes, if my LC will get approved in the iterim, I might be safe, but with no time left on the H1-B, and with the reduction of salary that will be applied very soon, I don''t think this is going to happen. Unless, as you said, I won't be lucky enough to get approved really soon.
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rolrblade
07-27 02:22 PM
I have a question, my attorney says that he has filed the application on 2nd July without my signature.
I have not given any authorization also.
I am worried if it is valid or not.
I don't know if they take authorization from my employer or it should be from me.
Please suggest.
Did he put a G-28 - Attorney representation form with it. If yes, then you are fine.
I have not given any authorization also.
I am worried if it is valid or not.
I don't know if they take authorization from my employer or it should be from me.
Please suggest.
Did he put a G-28 - Attorney representation form with it. If yes, then you are fine.
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msp1976
02-15 11:33 AM
How about requesting a $1donation when a non-contributing member ask a question, or $5 dollars for ten posts.It is not much but will definitely bring some revenue.
We can have a forum like member only access...where the question can only be posted by payed members or by people who pay a small donation? The idea is that the amount requested is not much ,which anyone can afford, but the number of questions people ask on our forum will definitely generate some revenue.
We can start a volunteer thread as a pilot program to see what kind of response we get...what do Core and rest of the member think of it?
Some of us have a fair study of the immigration laws....Our knowledge is anecdotal.....but still we are not lawyers and we donot want to get into a situation in which we get sued for providing potentially incorrect info....No one wants to mislead anyone but accepting money for service makes us step into an unknown territory....
We want to educate members as much as possible but this is not core business...
All advice we provide is with a caveat that users should check with their lawyesr for feasibility....
We can have a forum like member only access...where the question can only be posted by payed members or by people who pay a small donation? The idea is that the amount requested is not much ,which anyone can afford, but the number of questions people ask on our forum will definitely generate some revenue.
We can start a volunteer thread as a pilot program to see what kind of response we get...what do Core and rest of the member think of it?
Some of us have a fair study of the immigration laws....Our knowledge is anecdotal.....but still we are not lawyers and we donot want to get into a situation in which we get sued for providing potentially incorrect info....No one wants to mislead anyone but accepting money for service makes us step into an unknown territory....
We want to educate members as much as possible but this is not core business...
All advice we provide is with a caveat that users should check with their lawyesr for feasibility....
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needhelp!
08-23 06:38 PM
I am new here, Could anyone explain what is Texas State Chapter Activation about? how does that work? thanks!
Join here (they will need your phone number)
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/texasiv
Join here (they will need your phone number)
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/texasiv
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LCtank
07-14 01:46 PM
This link didn't work for me either.
Nobody knows much about when Skil bill will be debated. Webfaxes are a means to influence lawmakers to bring this to the floor of the house. Independent analaysis by a lawfirm based on collection of information from various sources indicates the chance that some business backed bill for high skilled immigrants will be passed this year. There is a 45% chance that it will get passed early next year. You can view details on this link.
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Nobody knows much about when Skil bill will be debated. Webfaxes are a means to influence lawmakers to bring this to the floor of the house. Independent analaysis by a lawfirm based on collection of information from various sources indicates the chance that some business backed bill for high skilled immigrants will be passed this year. There is a 45% chance that it will get passed early next year. You can view details on this link.
http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/7644/2582/1600/chart_alert7.11.2006.gif
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yganreddy
08-06 10:58 PM
I read this in other forum and thought of sharing it
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When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are
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You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.hi,
I came to US 5 years back in H4. My husband processed GC and 140 is cleared and 485 pending. I got my EAD and now working. My husband and I have problems and he is threatening to ruin my life.
Can I know a few things
1. Can he take me out of the GC ?
2. Can he revoke my EAD ?
3. Can my employee extend my EAD which is expiring in 2010 and continue my GC.
please help...
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When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say
We teach some more by what we do
But we teach most by what we are
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You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.hi,
I came to US 5 years back in H4. My husband processed GC and 140 is cleared and 485 pending. I got my EAD and now working. My husband and I have problems and he is threatening to ruin my life.
Can I know a few things
1. Can he take me out of the GC ?
2. Can he revoke my EAD ?
3. Can my employee extend my EAD which is expiring in 2010 and continue my GC.
please help...
siddar
12-03 05:51 PM
Candidate should be physically present in USA, on the date of AP approval. Otherwise, that AP is not valid. When the candidate try to enter US, the IO will verify this information and may permit accordingly.
I-485 application considers abandoned, if a candidate leaves US without any valid Visa to re-enter. Remember, H1 / H4 cannot be stamped after I-485 approval.
I'm a layman like you, please consult an attorney.
I-485 application considers abandoned, if a candidate leaves US without any valid Visa to re-enter. Remember, H1 / H4 cannot be stamped after I-485 approval.
I'm a layman like you, please consult an attorney.
maximus777
09-16 03:20 PM
done
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